Tell Your Story

Tell Your Domestic Violence Story

There is healing in telling your story. It seems that the healing comes in many ways. Some of it comes because feelings are released as you tell the story. Healing also comes because you gain a deeper understanding as you listen to yourself. In addition, others are healed as they listen to your story and realize that there are insights for their own lives.
If you like, you may e-mail your story to be published on this website. Your name will be removed, but also, please be sensitive about including any other information that would identify you to your abuser.

Suggestions For Re-reading Your Story

After your have sent your story and you have some distance from writing it, I suggest you read it again. Really feel your feelings as you read it. Then ask yourself. "What am I WILLING to do about this?" Please don't talk to yourself about what you "should" do. You probably have many things you "should" do and your friends have probably given you the same "shoulds." But "shoulds" are not helpful. You will not do anything because you "should." (Me and my friends have a long list for me. I "should" lose weight. I "should" exercise more. I "should" save more money. I "should" be nicer. I "should" keep my house cleaner. Am I doing these? NO!) The real question is, "What are you WILLING to do?" It does not have to be much to start. Maybe you are willing to read more books on domestic violence. Maybe you are willing to talk honestly to one friend you trust. Maybe you are willing to stop making excuses for your abuser.

Stories

H: I’m writing because I am a survivor of domestic violence. I suffered at the hands of my ex husband, whom in return plead guilty to assault. However, looking at the website, he isn’t listed. I was wonder how to get him added. After my life with him, I learned from his previous spouse that he is a repeat offender and abused her as well, which came as a shock. My hope is that by adding him to the website, someone in the future can be spared of the things we endured. Please let me know how I can help.

Nine: I am a 40 year old woman, who has been with my current boyfriend 2 1/2 years.. Before, him, I was married to my "first love" for 15 years. Too young, would be our problem, fighting between us was there, not alot of hitting, some, both ways...

Eight: Iwas about 24 when I got married. From the beginning, he yelled at me and pushed me around. I atttended church and believed that once you got married, you stayed married so I just kept letting him do it...

Seven: I would like to let you know that there are a small number of people out there who are like me. I am an abusive man. I was psychologically abusive to someone who I cared about more than anything in the whole world, and I lost her because of it...

Six: After 14 years, I experienced physical, emotional and verbal abuse from my husband. I decided that enough was enough; and for the sake of my three children who were growing older, I needed to end the abusive marriage...

Five: My name is not important-then again, I am not important. I have been literally swepted into this cloud I have allowed to be enveloped in for three years now. He frightens me, as he moves paper around the desk...

Four: I am writing you because I feel so alone. I have been in a violent marriage for 2 years and I am finally leaving him. Xxxxx, the abuser was put in jail one time for this already but he has yet to follow through with his domestic violence classes.

Three: I decided to leave my husband in August of 2000. I had stashed some money, so that I could leave and take my son with me. He filed paperwork against me and tried to take my son.

Two: I was raped as a child by two of my uncles, and molested by a cousin and my fathers girlfriend. I did what I was told to do as a child I told an adult- my teacher. She in turn told the principal...

One: I've been in a very violent relationship for the past 2 years. The violence has continually escalated to its current state. I really feel within my heart that my boyfriend will eventually kill me...

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