Thousands Gather for 30th Annual Men’s March Against Violence at Iolani Palace
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and this year, a powerful and emotional gathering took place at Iolani Palace for the 30th Annual Men’s March Against Violence. The march, organized by the Domestic Violence Action Center (DVAC), united over a thousand community members under this year’s theme: "Lead with Aloha."
The event aimed to bring attention to the pervasive issue of domestic violence, with particular focus on the Pacific community, where, according to the Asian Pacific Agents of Change Summit, 60 to 80% of women and girls experience physical or sexual violence in their lifetimes. It was not just a march—it was a call for action, healing, and unity.
A Personal Tragedy Shared
Among those who spoke was Kalo Binsky, whose sister, Heather Rosa, tragically lost her life to domestic violence. Kalo's story is heartbreaking yet hopeful, serving as a stark reminder that domestic violence can happen to anyone—often in silence.
"I used to work as a victim advocate at the prosecutor's office, helping victims of domestic violence," Kalo shared. "I never thought it would happen so close to home, to my own sister."
The loss of her sister was a shocking and painful experience, but Kalo found unexpected solace in the support she received from the community, particularly from men. "For a long time, I saw men as perpetrators. But seeing men come together to support our family with Aloha gave me hope."
Focusing on Prevention: Teaching the Youth
Kalo highlighted the importance of educating the younger generation about healthy relationships and family dynamics. "We need to start young," she said. "By getting into schools and talking to children about what a healthy family life looks like, we can begin to break the cycle early."
She emphasized that children are often the first to notice signs of domestic violence at home, and teaching them what is acceptable and what is not can help prevent future incidents. Kalo also pointed to organizations like the DVAC, which provide numerous programs and resources to those affected by domestic violence.
"We need to hone our efforts on the youth," Kalo urged, underscoring that early intervention and education are key to stopping the cycle of violence.
A Call for Community Action
The march was not only a moment to remember victims like Heather Rosa but also an opportunity to rally the community and inspire action. Men, women, and children marched together to raise awareness and demonstrate that domestic violence is not a private issue—it’s a community issue.
DVAC has been at the forefront of these efforts, offering support services, education, and advocacy for victims of domestic violence. Their programs aim to empower survivors, educate the community, and prevent further abuse.
As the marchers gathered, their message was clear: it takes a united community to combat domestic violence. Through education, outreach, and relentless advocacy, they hope to create a future where violence is no longer tolerated, and where victims can find the support and justice they deserve.
Moving Forward
As the event concluded, the focus remained on continuing the conversation and taking action to prevent domestic violence. For Kalo and others who have experienced loss, the march is both a personal journey of healing and a call to action for the entire community.
For those who couldn’t attend, the message remains: domestic violence is everyone’s issue, and it will take everyone—starting with education, advocacy, and community support—to truly make a difference.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, resources are available through the Domestic Violence Action Center and other local organizations.
Conclusion
This year’s Men’s March Against Violence once again brought together a community that refuses to stay silent in the face of domestic abuse. As October continues, the hope is that more people will join in the effort to create a safer, more supportive world for survivors and to prevent future violence.